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Friday, June 26, 2009

Cardboard basics

I've been writing a weekly post for 95.5 the fish on their mom squad blog. For the summer I'm giving tips on how to have fun with your children without spending a lot of money. Since I believe that teaching our children to be creative is one of the most valuable things we can do, I thought you might like to read today's post. You can also use the link in the sidebar to check out the mom squad.

As promised, I'm committed to giving mom's tips on how to have a fun summer with your children without spending a lot of money. Today's tip won't cost anything unless you decide to purchase paint.

Remember the old black and white movies with the "little rascals"? It's my personal belief that much of the technology we experienced in the 50's and 60's was due to the fact that during the depression and through the 40's children were "forced" by poverty to develop strong creative minds. I remember laughing as the little rascals built clubhouses, rickety skateboards and push cars. All of their creations were made from trash they found lurking around the house or some junk yard.

My experience also assures me that creative children are "happier". I personally believe that when we are taught to create - it sparks the part of our brain that involves hope. We are more confident because we have proven to ourselves that if we need something and can't afford it - we can probably make something that will do.

Today's tip involves free cardboard. Make a quick trip to any large appliance store and ask for free boxes. There are several things you can do with these boxes. One summer my daughter and her boyfriend made a full size police car for our church to use during VBS. They used a full size refrigerator box and attached several small ones to it. Once it was at the the church they also attached a small wooden bench inside. They had drawn dials, connected a steering wheel and a flashing light on top. While the project belonged to my daughter, the entire family was swept into the flow of creative juices. When it was painted we were amazed at the creation and detail. It actually looked like a pint size police car complete with top, windows and swinging doors. (I've looked for pictures but I think my daughter has them)

Also, did you know that larger pieces of cardboard will slide down a grass hill much like sledding on snow? When my children were about 5 we were at my parents. My Dad was cutting up large boxes to put in the trash. One of the children grabbed a piece and took it to the top of a ten foot slope. Not only did he slide down the hill, but he did a twisty at the end. For the next three hours all three children had the fun of sledding without worrying about freezing toes and coats. And the best part....it didn't hurt the grass!

Cardboard boxes can be made into clubhouses, personal tents, bird houses and appliances for a toddler kitchen - like a stove and counter top. My son's personal favorite was to take a box and cut one side and half of the other completely off. He would color or paint the outside to look like a race car. I'd take two pieces of twine or two belts and make shoulder straps. The straps would then hook to the box. He now had a race car hanging from his shoulders. For hours he would run around the house or play in the yard. He even discovered how to hang it from his tricycle making it the "coolest" car.

In the 70's the biggest rage was to take two pieces of cardboard and clothespin or duct tape them to the spokes of your bicycle. It makes a cool sound when you're riding down the road.

Have a fun summer!

Seeking His Wisdom,

Debbie

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Potty Training


For a long time I've giggled when parents have trouble with potty training. Housebreaking a puppy can be confusing and exhausting, but potty training a child is a fairly simple process. It can be done in one day. YES MOM! One day! I know it can be done because I've personally potty trained around 20 and overseen the potty training of around 40 children. It works and it can happen quickly if you take the time to "study" the process before jumping in.

Go to my website http://www.debbiejansen.com/ and click on resources. From there you can see an explanation of the process and purchase a 16 page booklet.

A wonderful parent and good friend asked me to do an article for her popular blog on adoption.

Laura Christianson is a wise parent and her website is full of information. http://www.laurachristianson.com/laura/

This is my article on potty training.

God does give us wisdom about the daily instructions we give our children. If you are struggling with potty training, e-mail me for answers.

Seeking his wisdom,

Debbie

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Dance me Daddy

What a wonderful tribute to dads and their little girls!



Thursday, June 11, 2009

Trusting eyes


We had a wonderful Bichon named Sammy. He was such a huge part of our family. Because of liver disease and then a freak accident, June 5th, last Friday we had to make the decision to put him to sleep.

Ron, Jamie, Amie and I all went to the vet and we stood in a room and literally cried a river. Ron held him as the doctor gave the injection. It was calm and peaceful and definitely the right thing to do, but I'm heartbroken. I hate the quiet in this house and I miss noises and things that I never realized were just a part of my life.

I watched a fascinating show on The National Geographic channel called "Dog Genius". It documented research about how and why dogs respond to us. Researchers showed some of their experiments and why they concluded that dogs watch our eyes for clues to their own lives and responses.

It was amazing to watch dogs pick out a treat left under a "shell game" cup when the trainer gave the simple clue of darting his eyes to the right cup. Even puppies were able to pick the right cup 95% of the time. There were several other experiments and it was unbelievable to watch dogs take their clues from human eyes. After watching the research, we realized why Sammy seemed to go through all this better than we did.

Sammy was not normally calm when we went to the vet, but Friday he was perfectly calm and relaxed. We realized that he had intently watched our eyes during this entire miserable problem. We are sure he must have known that we were crying for him and that our decision was for his well-being. The last thing he did was to look up and into Ron's eyes. He was gone within seconds, but Ron and the rest of us still haven't stopped crying.

Leaving the vet I was struck with the thought that other individuals have made the same decision of euthanasia but about babies and parents. I don't think I could ever make that decision about another human being - no matter how peaceful. I don't think abortion would ever be an option for me.

If dogs watch so intently and study our eyes - do children? I thought about the eyes of a child and how many times they look to our faces for comfort or for recognition. How can anyone betray that kind of trust? How could any adult abuse or hurt that kind of innocent trust? How could any marriage that started out with two people pledging vows and looking into each others eyes --- how could you stoop so far down as to betray that kind of trust with violence?

I suppose without really thinking about it, that's why I compliment and honey and darling everyone. Maybe that's why I've spent my entire marriage doing all I can to build Ron's ego and to build a strong self-esteem for each of my children. Thinking back on bad times I now realize that when I'm angry and on the verge of exploding, I usually look at my family's eyes. That will stop me cold. How can I betray, demean or devalue the person behind those eyes?

When we were finally back home, I took the time to look at the eyes of my children. Their faces, sizes, hair and personalities have all changed over the years. But guess what? Their eyes are the same as they were when I held them in my arms and sang rock-a-bye. Maybe their eyes are a little larger - but everything about them is the same. And Ron, his eyes are just as loving, just as compassionate and just as accepting as they were when we were dating.

Maybe this world would be a better place if we paid more attention to the eyes of our family.

Seeking His Wisdom,

Debbie