When counseling with troubled children, the #1 thing I look for is their level of self-esteem. If it's too low, they will be filled with guilt, insecurities and fears. If it's lop-sided and they have turned a proper self-esteem into a controlling addiction, they will be bullies. If it's so low it's almost non-existent - my job is going to take a long time.The most important thing you can do for your child is to protect them with a healthy self-esteem. A healthy self-esteem will not destroy others in order to promote self. A healthy self-esteem will value others and will be able to work side by side for a common good. A healthy self-esteem will be able to sacrifice as well as receive (gracefully) the gifts of others.
A healthy self-esteem will protect your child. It will be easier for him to stand up for what's right, to stay within the convictions of your family, to work with others and to listen to instructions. He/she will not be fooled by the taunts of others because they have confidence in their own worth. His belief in who he is will allow him to excel in his talents. Her belief in her own value will allow her to resist conformity to other struggling children or teens. How?
A healthy self-esteem is based on truth.
1. A person with a healthy self-esteem knows and likes who they are. Their talents aren't puffed up - they are real. They are comfortable with their strengths and abilities and they can acknowledge their faults or shortcomings. They realize that they are valuable and important in their own small world.
2. A person with a healthy self-esteem does not bully others. They realize that we all are important in our own way. They quickly find a way to accept others and allow them to succeed.
3. A person with a healthy self-esteem can listen to instruction. They are teachable and that will cause them to be a VIP to their teachers.
4. Bullies have a hard time hurting children with a healthy self-esteem. A child with a proper self-esteem will quickly realize that anything a bully says is a lie. By not buying into the lie - the bully is neutralized.
5. A person with a healthy self-esteem will also be in control of his temper.
6. A person with a healthy self-esteem will work harder to excel in his talent. The more success he has, the harder he works to improve. It's a wonderful cycle that will take his life to new heights.
7. A person with a healthy self-esteem just has more fun. They are able to relax and enjoy life.
8. A person with a healthy self-esteem will have more friends. We all gravitate to people we can enjoy.
Protect your child. Be a great Mommy detective and give your child the tool he/she needs to be successful in life. Give them a healthy self-esteem.Seek His Wisdom
Debbie
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