Don't waffle and confuse your child. Mean what you say. It’s difficult to follow a waffling leader. Life is confusing enough, don’t make it worse by waffling on rules or family values. Do your research. Make sure you are right and apply compassion when needed.
It is possible to be strong about rules or opinions that you feel are right and still have a process for changing the rules when new information makes it necessary. For example, the rule may be that eating in bedrooms can't be tolerated because of an insect problem. But...if the child is sick for a long period of time and can't leave his room - of course the rule must be broken.
Most children can understand "exceptions" to a rule as long as they know you can be trusted to make the rule fair to everyone at all times. You may have to do a little more training or a little more explaining....but they will understand if it's presented right.
If you make sure they understand when and how exceptions will be used, you can stick to the demands you have made. Being a parent that sticks to the rules is not about being mean – it is about showing your child that you can be trusted.
Seeking His Wisdom,
Debbie
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